The Jouissance Sanctum Guide to Blissful Open Monogamy
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Fly Outside the Bird Cage Without Losing What You Love Most
A therapist-designed roadmap to help you and your partner explore open monogamy with confidence, emotional safety, and connection.
Your privacy and emotional safety are protected every step of the way.
You love your partner - and you're curious about more
You’ve heard of open relationships — maybe you’ve even talked about it with your partner.
And when the conversation starts, fear rises:
What if it ruins our relationship?
What if jealousy takes over?
What if one of us gets hurt?
Traditional monogamy can feel like a beautiful bird cage — safe, familiar, but limiting. And when you begin to wonder what lies beyond, it can stir equal parts excitement and terror.
Many couples who explore open monogamy do it without guidance — and that’s why so many end up in heartbreak, confusion, or chaos.
This course changes that.
The Jouissance Sanctum Guide to Blissful Open Monogamy is your safe, structured path to explore freedom while keeping love, integrity, and emotional security intact.
Fly Outside the Bird Cage Without Losing What You Love Most
A therapist-designed roadmap to help you and your partner explore open monogamy with confidence, emotional safety, and connection.
Your privacy and emotional safety
are protected every step of the way.
You love your partner - and you're curious about more
You’ve heard of open relationships — maybe you’ve even talked about it with your partner.
And when the conversation starts, fear rises:
What if it ruins our relationship?
What if jealousy takes over?
What if one of us gets hurt?
Traditional monogamy can feel like a beautiful bird cage — safe, familiar, but limiting. And when you begin to wonder what lies beyond, it can stir equal parts excitement and terror.
Many couples who explore open monogamy do it without guidance — and that’s why so many end up in heartbreak, confusion, or chaos.
This course changes that.
The Jouissance Sanctum Guide to Blissful Open Monogamy is your safe, structured path to explore freedom while keeping love, integrity, and emotional security intact.
From Confusion to Clarity.
From Fear to Freedom.
From Tension to Trust.
By the end of this journey, you and your partner will:
Understand your emotional capacity for open monogamy.
Have clear, loving agreements that protect your bond.
Communicate about desires and boundaries with grace.
Explore freedom without fear or shame.
This isn’t about “having permission.” It’s about expanding connection — not replacing it.
INTRODUCING
A Step-by-Step Journey
The Bird Cage Framework
A Step-by-Step Journey — The Bird Cage Framework
Each module is crafted to guide you gently through reflection, communication, and exploration. You’ll move from internal clarity → relational connection → confident, ethical exploration.
Each module is crafted to guide you gently through reflection, communication, and exploration.
You’ll move from internal clarity → relational connection → confident, ethical exploration.
MODULE 1
Why Being in the Bird Cage
Is So Difficult
Understand the roots of monogamy, gain self-compassion, and release internalized shame while building a foundation of emotional safety.
Understand where your monogamy beliefs came from
Identify pressures that strain long-term intimacy
Release shame around your desires and needs
Build self-compassion and emotional clarity
Create a grounded foundation for open communication
MODULE 2
Why You Want to Fly Outside of the Bird Cage
Clarify personal desires, identify motivations, and evaluate readiness to explore new relational structures with intention and care.
Clarify your authentic desires without guilt
Identify what’s motivating your interest in openness
Assess your emotional readiness for exploration
Recognize when therapy or support is needed before starting
Learn to communicate wants and limits with honesty and care
MODULE 3
Clarifying Points of Interest Outside the Bird Cage
Explore forms of open monogamy, define your values, and create a preliminary agreement that reflects mutual trust and curiosity.
Learn about different forms of consensual nonmonogamy and reasons couples choose each
Identify what types of experiences genuinely appeal to you
Define shared values to guide your exploration
Outline a preliminary open monogamy agreement together
Avoid the trap of assuming your interests must match your partner’s
MODULE 4
Flying Outside the Bird Cage While Maintaining It
Learn how to set boundaries that protect love and structure, balancing emotional connection with independence and mutual respect.
Clarify your emotional, physical, and time availability
Learn how to pace engagement to avoid overwhelm
Establish limits that honor both partners’ needs
Prevent misalignment by being realistic about your capacity
MODULE 5
Enjoying the View Together
Develop pacing strategies, shared reflections, and grounding practices that strengthen communication as you begin to explore together.
Learn to pace your exploration with intention
Practice grounding tools that reduce anxiety and overwhelm
Build communication habits that keep both partners aligned
Share reflections that deepen trust and connection
Prevent “moving too fast” by checking in with shared reality
MODULE 6
Flying with Grace and Confidence
Discover emotional regulation tools to navigate jealousy, uncertainty, and comparison with self-awareness, compassion, and openness.
Learn tools to regulate jealousy and insecurity
Understand the roots of comparison and self-doubt
Communicate from a calm, grounded state
Strengthen trust through intentional behaviors
Build emotional resilience as you explore together
MODULE 7
The Watering Hole — Dating the Right Species
Learn how to meet compatible partners ethically, maintain clarity in connections, and engage from honesty and conscious intention.
Identify where to meet partners who fit your values
Learn ethical ways to connect and communicate intentions
Avoid mismatches that lead to drama or confusion
Clarify your availability before meeting anyone new
Seek partners aligned with your emotional and relational capacity
MODULE 8
Spreading Your Wings and Taking Off
Spreading Your
Wings and Taking Off
Begin your first explorations with clear parameters, mindful pacing, and communication techniques to ensure comfort and connection.
Learn first-step strategies for safe exploration
Set realistic expectations for early experiences
Use communication techniques that prevent misunderstandings
Stay grounded through mindful pacing
Begin exploring with clarity, confidence, and emotional safety
MODULE 9
Avoiding the Love Birds
Recognize emotional attachment patterns early, practice awareness, and learn protocols to preserve agreements and emotional monogamy if your intention is only casual sex.
Spot early signs of emotional attachment
Practice awareness to prevent unintended bonding
Follow protocols that support emotional monogamy
Maintain clarity and honesty in casual connections
Avoid the most common drama trap that leads to relationship destruction
MODULE 10
Who Needs to Know You’re Flying?
Navigate discretion, disclosure, and societal perception with wisdom, protecting privacy while embracing your authentic truth.
Decide who to tell, when, and if it's necessary
Learn discretion practices that protect your relationship
Navigate family, friends, and community perceptions
Avoid conflict caused by oversharing or mismatched boundaries
Embrace your authentic truth while maintaining safety and respect
BONUSES
When You Enroll, You Also Receive:
Consensual Nonmonogamy Glossary — Feel confident knowing the meaning of common consensual nonmonogamy terms. Language is power
Access to the Jouissance Sanctum Inner Circle — A private Telegram community for enrolled members to share insights, questions, and experiences in a judgment-free space.
Invitation to Jouissance Sanctum Facebook Group — Join discussions and connect with others exploring alternative lifestyles.
Meet Dr. Shari Derksen
PhD, R.Psych., CST
Dr. Shari is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist and the founder of Jouissance Sanctum — a space devoted to helping individuals and couples cultivate honesty, emotional safety, and erotic freedom in conscious relationships.
With a PhD in Human Sexuality, she knows a lot about the history and complexities of eroticism and intimacy. And with years of experience guiding clients through the complexities of nontraditional intimacy, Dr. Shari developed this course as a structured, compassionate roadmap for couples ready to explore open monogamy without fear or confusion.
Her approach integrates attachment theory, somatic awareness, and erotic embodiment — bridging the gap between psychological safety and liberated intimacy.
“My mission is to help you experience freedom without fragmentation — to fly together, not apart.”
“My mission is to help you experience freedom without
fragmentation — to fly together, not apart.”
Calm, Reassuring, Emotionally Grounded
You don’t have to choose between safety and freedom.
With the right guidance, you and your partner can explore openly without losing each other — and even become closer through the journey.
Begin your exploration with clarity, compassion, and confidence.
Enroll Now — Start the Journey Together
Get $150 Off — Limited to
the First 100 Participants
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TESTIMONIALS
What our clients are saying
“This course gave us the confidence and clarity to explore open monogamy without fear or guilt.”
The automation capabilities are incredible. We've saved countless hours and improved our customer engagement significantly.
You Don’t Have to Choose Between Love and Freedom
You can have both - deep connection and authentic expression. With the right guidance, clarity, and care, open monogamy can become the most honest and liberating chapter of your relationship.
You can have both - deep connection and authentic expression. With the right guidance, clarity,
and care, open monogamy can become the most honest and liberating chapter of your relationship.
Your Privacy And Confidentiality Are Always Respected. You’ll Also Receive Exclusive Insights And Tools On Emotional Safety And Conscious Relationships From Jouissance Sanctum.
Your Privacy And Confidentiality Are Always Respected. You’ll Also Receive Exclusive Insights
And Tools On Emotional Safety And Conscious Relationships From Jouissance Sanctum.
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